Why I do this work

I became a couples therapist because I believe the relationship between two people is one of the most powerful forces in a person's life. But honestly, it goes even deeper than that.

When I help a couple change a harmful pattern, I am not just helping two people. I am impacting everyone they will ever love.

Their children who are watching and absorbing everything about what love looks like. Their grandchildren who will inherit the emotional patterns passed down through generations. The family dinners and the quiet Sunday mornings and the way conflict gets handled behind closed doors. All of it shapes the people their kids become and the relationships their kids will one day have.

That is not a small thing. That is everything.

I have spent over 15 years sitting with couples in their hardest moments. After affairs. After years of silence. After fights that left both partners lying awake wondering if any of it was worth it anymore.

What I know with certainty after all of that is this: most couples do not need to divorce. They need a guide. A structure. The right tools applied at the right moment by someone who is not afraid to go where the work actually needs to go. Every step of the way. The ripple effect of two people choosing to heal instead of repeat, is something I never take for granted. It is why I built a practice around intensive, focused experiences that actually move the needle. And it is why I show up fully for every single couple who walks through my door.

I am not a smile and nod therapist. I will ask the hard questions. I will challenge you when it serves you. And I will be genuinely, wholeheartedly in your corner every step of the way.

A Little About Me Outside the Office

I have been with my husband since 2005 and married since 2012. I am a mom of three. And I want you to know that I do not just study relationships from a distance. I live one.

I know what it looks like when your relationship gets buried under the weight of a career and kids and all the beautiful relentless chaos of real life. I know how quickly the distance can grow when you stop tending to each other. And I know what it takes, on an ordinary Tuesday when you are tired and overwhelmed, to choose your partner anyway.

That lived experience is not separate from my clinical work. It is woven into it. When you sit across from me and tell me what you are going through, I am not just drawing on 15 years of training. I am drawing on something real.

I think that matters. And I think you will feel it in the room.

What Working With Me Looks Like

I use the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy in my work with couples. Both are extensively researched, evidence based approaches that give us a clear framework for understanding what is actually happening in your relationship and building the skills to change it.

I offer weekly couples therapy, four hour couples intensives, affair recovery intensives, a comprehensive couples package, and the Relationship Reset Retreat at Murrieta Hot Springs for couples who are ready to invest in a full immersive experience.

Every couple I work with goes through an intake process that includes both a joint session and individual sessions with each partner. I want to understand both of you fully before we begin the work together. That depth of understanding is what makes the work go somewhere real.

I see couples in person at my office in Temecula, California and via telehealth throughout the state of California.