Resources for Real Relationships
Free and paid tools built from 15+ years of clinical work with real couples. Start wherever you are.
"The relationship you want is closer than you think."
Getting Closer: A Relationship Health Assessment
Both partners complete 30 questions independently across six research-backed dimensions. Receive a combined score, a radar chart showing your results side by side, clinical interpretations, and personalized next steps.
Take the Free AssessmentStart Here. No Cost.
What Is Your Attachment Style?
Find out your attachment style in 12 questions: your core fear in love, what helps you feel safe, and your strengths as a partner. Take it on your phone or print it out, then compare results with your partner.
Relationship Health Assessment
Six dimensions. Thirty questions. Both partners assessed independently with combined results, a personalized report, and clinical recommendations specific to your scores.
Tools You Can Use Tonight.
The Repair Deck
What to say when you come back to each other. Choose whether you are the partner who pursues or the partner who withdraws, and get repair phrases written for your side of the pattern.
Save the phrases that feel most like you, and practice them together in Couples Mode, so the words are ready before you need them.
- Nearly 50 phrases, each with why it works
- For shutting down, escalating, silence, and saying it wrong
- Save the phrases that feel most like you
- Couples Mode to practice together
Instant access on any phone. Save it to your home screen.
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The Couples Toolkit
Twelve tools to regulate, repair, and reconnect. Stop a fight before it does damage, say what is really wrong, and feel close again.
- Flooding, the body scan, and how to call a Taco
- A full-color feeling wheel
- The Four Horsemen and their antidotes
- Turning toward, gratitude, and shared meaning
30-page PDF with worksheets for each partner.
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Understanding Each Other
A couples attachment workbook. See why you keep having the same fight, map the cycle you keep landing in, and learn exactly what to say to find your way back.
- All four attachment styles and all ten pairings
- Map your cycle, then call a Taco and use The Conversation
- Two example couples you follow through every step
- Worksheets for each partner and cut-out pocket cards
56-page PDF. Print or fill on screen.
Get the WorkbookThese tools are for couples who feel safe with each other. If there is violence, fear, or an active affair in your relationship, please get support first: National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. These resources are education, not therapy.
For the Hardest Month of Your Life.
Surviving the First 30 Days
Clinical support for the betrayed partner navigating the immediate aftermath of infidelity. Not a promise that everything will be okay. A guide for the hardest month of your life.
Instant PDF download. Read on any device.
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Making It Right
For the partner navigating the aftermath of an affair. Not to absolve you. Not to shame you. To give you something concrete to do when you do not know what to do.
Instant PDF download. Read on any device.
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Both Guides Bundle
For the couples who are both trying, from opposite sides of the same wound. Both guides together, one for each of you.
Janine Piernas, LMFT
Janine Piernas is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 15+ years of experience specializing in couples therapy, affair recovery, and relationship intensives. She utilizes the Gottman Method and EFT, and works with couples in Temecula, CA and throughout California via telehealth. Her approach is direct, warm, and evidence-based. Every resource on this page was built from real clinical work with real couples.
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The relationship you want is closer than you think.